When the old motivations stop working

While homeopathy helped release the stuck energy in my body, it didn’t suddenly tell me what I was meant to move toward.

And that matters.

Because no tool — and no person — can give you that answer.

It only comes from within.

The real question is: can you hear it?

We all have an inner voice — intuition, wisdom, soul.

But many of us stop listening to it early in life.

Why?

Because another voice takes over — the ego.

The ego’s job is survival.
And it looks *outside* of us to figure out how to do that.

So it listens to:
Parents
School
Culture
Religion
Media
Social expectations

From there, we build a life that looks successful — often very successful.

We check the boxes.
We do the “right” things.
We build something that works.

And then, for many women, midlife arrives.

Not as a crisis —
but as a moment when the old motivations stop working.

The body speaks louder.
The work feels heavier.
The soul wants a voice.

Right now, a lot of this gets explained as perimenopause — and sometimes, hormones are absolutely part of the picture.

But what I’ve seen (and experienced) is that hormones often amplify something that was already asking for attention.

They turn up the volume.

They don’t create the misalignment — they reveal it.

For me, this meant looking honestly at:
What had been motivating my decisions
What was no longer aligned
And what I actually wanted now — based on my current values, not past conditioning

Letting go of ego-driven programming isn’t a mindset shift.

It’s an unraveling.

It requires quiet.
Space.
And often, turning down the noise of the outside world long enough to hear yourself again.

This is the work midlife invites us into.

Not becoming someone new —
but returning to what’s true.